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Finally, is there an affection for this person in my heart and mind based on the way God has defined biblical manhood and womanhood?
This is (hopefully) a much deeper and godlier assessment then simply asking, "Am I physically attracted to him or her? " If you get through all that soul-searching, you may decide (probably separately at this point) that marriage between the two of you is the right thing before the Lord.
Second, are you at a place in your life at which you are ready and able to marry?
In my view, if you can't happily picture yourself married within a year, you're not in a position to date.
Third, once you decide that you are ready to date, look to God's Word to decide the kind of person to date, and evaluate potential dating partners on those criteria, rather than relying primarily on the world's treatment of ideas like "attraction" and "chemistry." I wrote at some length on this in my article, "Brother, You're Like a Six." For you busy singles with time for only one mildly irritating column per day, the summary is this: Pick a potential dating partner with an eye toward godly manhood and womanhood — with an eye toward who would make a good husband or wife, defined by those characteristics esteems in His Word, not the ones Hollywood likes.
Do you feel that you can love her sacrificially, or respect and support him?
Also, what do others (those that both of you have been seeking counsel from, under whose authority the relationship has taken place, Christian friends or family) think of the relationship? Does the relationship seem to be good for both of you spiritually, glorifying to God and Christ-centered?